People talk a lot about healing, but very few people talk about what healing actually changes inside you, and almost nobody warns you about how healing can feel. This is something we see every day at Abasa. People start healing genuinely, and then they panic because it starts feeling harder instead of lighter. So if … Read more
You know what’s keeping most people stuck?It’s not laziness.It’s not a lack of talent or consistency. It’s the habit of pushing yourself harder—the very habit we are so proud of. Why Pushing Works in the Outside World Think about pushing harder in the outside world. If you lift weights, you apply force, finish the set, … Read more
Tell me honestly—have you ever walked out of a conversation thinking, “That’s not what I meant. Why did it go so wrong?” You had no bad intention. You just wanted to be heard or understood. But somehow, your words didn’t land properly. Your silence felt like distance. Your tone felt like blame. And your … Read more
Have you ever been in a group where everyone is laughing, planning something fun, and you suddenly feel like you do not belong there? Or maybe you were scrolling Instagram and saw your friends at a party you did not even know about. When everyone is laughing together and you feel like you are standing … Read more
Why do you feel so tired when your life looks fine on the outside? Why do simple tasks feel heavy even though nothing is technically wrong? And why do you feel drained for no visible reason? The answer is not laziness, weakness, or bad habits. You might be carrying an emotional weight that doesn’t look … Read more
If I ask you, what do you truly want in life? Chances are your mind either goes blank or gives a safe answer—something that sounds practical, sensible, and acceptable. But deep down, it doesn’t feel true. This doesn’t mean you have no desires. It means your desires are buried under fear, pressure, expectations, and a … Read more
Most of us think that the things slowing us down in life are big things like our situation, confidence, or personality. But that’s not always true. A lot of the time, it’s something quieter—something we don’t even realize. These are fears running in the background, influencing what we try, what we avoid, and how big … Read more
Mental Heaviness and Unmade Decisions Have you experienced that constant background heaviness inside your mind? That feeling of being mentally tired even on a normal day. Most people think that kind of exhaustion comes from doing too much work. But a lot of your exhaustion comes from the things you haven’t done yet. Even small … Read more
Why Your Reactions Didn’t Start Today You know, many behaviors you have today didn’t actually start today. You might shut down during conflict. You might overthink small things or apologize too fast. And you think, this is just my nature. But the truth is, almost all of these reactions were shaped when you were a … Read more
Why Do People Go Back to Those Who Hurt Them? Why do some people go back to the ones who hurt them? It can happen in any relationship, but it is most visible in romantic ones. No matter what they do, you go back to them again and again. Even your friends can see it. … Read more